Our lives are a story. Actually, lots of stories with chapters we’ve made up from how we were raised, our values, perceptions and ideologies.
The thing is, a lot of times these stories are skewed and don’t serve us. That’s because we tend to create these stories with a bias of judgements and bad life experiences. We walk with them attached to us in shame, fear and sorrow.
When that is the case, we need to rewrite our narrative in a more positive light.
For me I had several stories that were holding me back from truly living. The most prevalent one was “I am unlovable“.
I have changed the story to “I am love” but catching myself when I start to go down the negative road of my old story was how I started to rewire my brain with this new story.
But it wasn’t always that simple. Identifying where the story started was a hard, long path. I discovered that things in my past were the ley lines of my belief system.
I was adopted. But that isn’t my full tale. It started before that, with my actual origins. I held a lot of shame surrounding the fact that I was conceived in rape and knowing my birth mother tried to abort me (luckily her father stopped it!).
It forged a deep belief within me that I didn’t belong and was unlovable. As I worked through other issues in my life, this one was forever present on the side lines.
It wasn’t until I accomplished an assignment from the universe (I learned this term from Gabby Bernstein’s new book), with someone who laid bare these biggest fears for me, that I started to do the work and heal.
I was cracked open and lay vulnerable to these stories I had been telling myself which in turn led me to examine them deeply and start the work to change them. After all, our circumstances are what they are, but how we react to them and interrupt them is all on us. I decided to turn to love and rewrite my stories.
So, being “a product of rape” changed to being “a miracle of circumstances“.
Being “given up out of hate” changed to being “given a better life away from hate by being taken in by my parents, who choose me out of love“.
‘I don’t know who I am‘ changed to “my experiences, values and soul make me who I am“.
Catching myself when the negative based stories started playing and replacing them with these new narratives eventually made them stick.
I define my life now with kindness and love. And therefore, my new stories get easier to remember everyday.
Are there any stories you need to rewrite? If so, I hope that my sharing this part of my journey helps you.